Guest Post: Mature Love Vs. Young Love In Romance by Sandra Ely

In a foreward written by Stephen King, he said that it’s easier for him to write about mature love than it is to write about young love. Not because of the content, mind you, but because he is experienced with the former moreso than the latter. So what’s the difference you may be asking yourself.

Young love is the beginning of a romantic relationship when there are butterflies and courting. It’s the process of wooing, of falling, of being so infatuated the other person’s faults are over-looked. While this is not exclusive to romance reads, it is definitely the most prominent genre to explore the subject.

Mature love is the romantic relationship between a couple who have been together for some time. They know each other, see the faults in the other party and accept them, flaws and all. It’s not about the hearts and flowers as the couple have already found their relationship footing. This is not normally found in romance novels, but if done correctly it can be.

The difference between young love and mature love has never been about the inclusion of sex, but about where a couple is on the road of their relationship.

Why choose this topic?

It’s an issue I have been exploring as I start a new contemporary romance titled, “Returning to Us.” In a nutshell, it’s about a man and woman who have been married, who have started a family, and who come to a point in their relationship where they will move forward stronger than ever, or break completely apart.

While there are hints of the relationship that lead the couple to the point where they are currently at in the novel, the memories of their courtship and the early stages of their relationship are not the driving force between their dynamic. The focus is on the flaws in their relationship, how those flaws have effected their present, and how they can overcome them, either together or apart.

I can honestly say this is a project that isn’t as easy for me as building a relationship up from scratch where the reader gets to see early development as it occurs. It’s a battle of how much to tell to ensure the reader knows how these two people came together, but to keep the story focused on what has become of them. Having an established pair, with a complete history in your head is one thing. To try to put the same established pair into the midst of troubled waters with the reader having no idea of their history is quite another.

Mature love is found more often in genres outside of romance, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be found within the genre. It’s a fine line to work around, but next time you hear the phrases “young love” or “mature love” you will have a better understanding of it’s literary meaning.


41ARgO8k6GL._UX250_A stay at home wife and mother of two incredible boys, Sandra enjoys writing fiction dealing with supernatural aspects. She lives in Missouri, although she has lived in several other states including: Arizona (where she was born), Colorado, Florida, South Dakota, Kansas, Montana, Iowa, California, Ohio and Michigan.




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